Online dating dtf

16-Feb-2020 06:41 by 3 Comments

Online dating dtf - using multiple dating websites

It’s your game and your ability to approach a girl actually looking to meet guys.

Within minutes you can find someone hot, then find out if they like similar things to you, hang out at the same places, then within seconds find out who your mutual friends are, where they last got drunk and where their mum lives. The excitement and urgency at which we find people is reflective of the speed at which we move on.

Gays say go for it, fuck on the first date, it’s the most honest thing you can do and you both win.

For girls it’s a bit tougher, double standards and years of judgement mean that women, despite how sexually liberated they might feel, are stumped when it comes to deciding whether to have sex on the first night or not. Some guys will get up, make you breakfast, take you to get a juice (or the morning after pill, depending on your night) lay down the old “I’ll call you later” line and then go AWOL.

The fact is, whether you do or don’t doesn’t seem to affect how men feel about you. There is no real way to avoid or read this situation.

Why deprive yourself, if they like you, it’s going to work out after, if they don’t, then it’s on to the next one. Postponing or holding out on sex is like avoiding the truth. It’s the same story whether you met online or offline. But strangely, the men I spoke to all felt like it was the women who made the whole thing feel weird.

Let the guy follow you first and don’t let this liking-game go on for too long otherwise you’ll just become Insta-friends rather than sexy friends. Irrespective of what people say, whether he takes you out for dinner, for a drink, whether its 10am or 10pm, you’re both there for one reason.

It’s just about how many hoops you both jump through to get to that end goal.

If you’re on an app, you’re probably kinda thirsty and DTF or at least curious. Have you ever seen that meme ‘when you’re 46 weeks deep into lurking and you see something you don’t want to see…’ yeah, that’s why you should avoid doing it.

But much like real-life, if it doesn’t happen right away, it probably won’t happen. Some things are better left unknown and left to fate.

But now that cuffing season is officially over and spring has sprung, it’s a good time to establish some ground rules, and air out some basic do’s and don’ts. If they’re looking to get laid, they put out a thirst trap, out come the dog-filter Snapchats, the subtly sexual ‘mood’ posts and late-night ‘me rn’ selfies. Wait too long and the match loses the initial surprise and energy.

I asked a bunch of men and women, straight and gay, some questions about how they behave when dating online. Overall, men didn’t seem to care what they post, their profile pics or what women put, when they’re on dating apps they’re simply “on safari”. There’s also an attraction to assertiveness.” Said one of the guys I asked. Other than finding out who each other’s mutual friends are and where their aunt went on holiday last year.

Be clear with what you want and you’re less likely to get hurt and less likely to hurt someone else in the long run.